I love seeing the positivity those I follow (friends and influencers) post on social media. Do you? Sometimes they post once a day. Sometimes more. Sometimes more than you would like.
Who rolls her eyes when seeing this stream of motivation every #motivationalmonday? Have you ever contemplated blocking or unfollowing these acquaintances on social media? If someone behaved like this in real life, would you no longer want to be his friend because he regularly promotes positivity?
Think about it. Would you really tell your friend that you no longer want to see him because he quotes Brené Brown or Albert Camus on a consistent basis? I beg to differ. You would, in fact, appreciate his input, as it probably makes you feel better. Positivity is contagious. Your friend’s outlook emboldens you to view life from a more constructive point of view.
The power of positive thinking. It is contagious. When your friend speaks from a positive perspective, you are more receptive. When your other friend, Debbie Downer, starts listing the eleven reasons why she cannot finish her assignment, you leave that conversation in a grumpy mood too. That is, unless you are a Saturday Night Live cast member and catch the giggle bug. See, it is contagious.
As ClassPass founder, Payal Kadakia said as a guest on Sophia Amoruso's Girlboss podcast, with positive thinking, “you control your thoughts.” Even if you are having an off day, you can extract the good. The small wins. The fact that you completed your entire to-do list is a small [yet such a feel-good] win. This goes back to being grateful on a daily basis. Appreciate. Acknowledge.
I love to share thought-provoking and heartening quotes. Yes, it may bother some, but that is not my motive. Whether I express them to a friend via iMessage or post them on Instagram, I find solace and compassion within. We all go through celebrated and arduous times, but having perspective is helpful. When someone emanates enthusiasm, you become optimistic and rationalize that it is not the end of the world.
Consider this, when you call your mom after not receiving the promotion you had been expecting, you are comforted. You hang up and have a renewed pep in your step and understand that there is still good in life.
The next time you start rolling your eyes at another Oscar Wilde quote, please pause. What if it were you sharing that enthusiastic motivation; what would your intention be? You would not aim to bother, but would be creating contagious positivity.
Ideas catch on the most when they are presented to us by a confidant. See Jonah Berger’s book, Contagious: Why Things Catch On. In fact, when you read a New York Magazine review on the hot new Greenwich Village restaurant, you consider trying it. But, when your sister raves about the fabulous meal she had, you make a reservation. Contagion is real. Positive contagion is the best.
So spread positivity. It is definitely better than transmitting negativity. Make it a thing. It can turn around your day, week, or year.