In Your Twenties
I commend you. Why? Because being 20 is hard. Do you ever feel guilty thinking how good you have it, but wonder why you still have no idea what you want to do? Guilty that you are in your twenties so you should have everything figured out? Well, one key you should realize as a twentysomething is that you can never expect anyone to have anything figured out, regardless of his or her age. Stop shoulding yourself
When you were 18, a senior in high school, you felt like you knew everything and were on top of the world, right? As you age, you realize that now, just as when you were 18, in the grand scheme of things you know very little. At least now, as a twentysomething, you are aware of this.
So, I get it, being 20 is tough. You are no longer a young adult. You are a full-fledged adult. If you are approaching or have already hit the big 2-6, you are no longer eligible to be on your parents’ insurance. Bottom line, growing up is hard to do. Being an adult is arduous. There are no more directions to the next stop in life. It is not about doing the work to get into college, and choosing the right courses to get the right job. Now, it is about personal growth. This may be the most challenging of the growths — more on growths later. But the fact that you have the opportunity to do this is huge. While it may not always be fun, you are so beyond fortunate. Seize everything you can from every single experience, good or bad. The key is to keep moving. Forward or back, left or right. The direction does not matter; it will all work out. Just keep moving; do not stagnate.
While you are focusing on figuring out what this so-called life really is, do yourself a favor: take care of you. An integral constituent in figuring out your life is realizing what you need to do to feel good, to love the life you live. However, adjunctly take care of yourself. Schedule that annual physical and actually show up. Ladies, make that gyno appointment, and everyone, call your dermatologist for a skin check. Your skin has already seen a lot of sun. None of this is fun. But how invincible, relieved, and confident do you feel when you know that you are healthy.
Do what you need to feel good. Use your post-college knowledge to make good decisions. Have fun. After all, you only life once!
With confidence, love the life you live.